Yeah I just removed some social network sites that I linked to in the past , posted to , had accounts on , etc.
Of these were Plurk, Plaxo, Twitter, LinkedIn. I had already gotten rid of MySpace, hi5, Orkut, Friendster, and others some time ago. That leaves the daddy of all social network sites, Facebook. I am debating killing that one too though it seems to be one of the few ways I keep up on what my sister and family are doing since they don’t rly email me, as well a few of my guy friends, its how they message back and forth with me. The other hundreds of my “friends” on Facebook are connected to me from the automotive communities I was or am engaged with (namely Mini and smart cars, but includes others like bikers and other car groups too.. yeh I am a guy, I like cars) — absent from my contacts should be other people I don’t know or “others” like those stupid arse girl/guy spammers whose only purpose in life (or that of their promoters/agencies pretending to be acting on their behalf) is MONEY and MARKETING stuff to anyone dumb enough to friend them.. meh!
That’s the thing.. social networking, it’s like superficial and what’s the word .. ambiguous! These aren’t generally people I would want to stay the night in my house with me and my wife or family, and who knows what kinda Internet weirdos are out there, rly?! If it isn’t someone I would want to spend face-to-face time with, why waste my attention and resources talking or interacting with complete strangers? Hmm, doesn’t work for real everyday life, so why does the Internet become an exception where the typist is hiding behind a computer screen? Hmm, no I don’t see why we as citizens of the world find that anywhere near acceptable.. what have we become, hermits and trolls?
Perhaps I am just jaded or unfriendly, it may appear that way, or paranoid or protective of my personal information and possessions.. whatever the idea is, I will say indeed I think computers are an awesome tool, it’s what you do with them that helps to define or reinforce what is important to you, what or who you put first, where your interests are, where your passion lies, what you find to be acceptable, admirable, what or who you appreciate in life.
Do you want to spend your time cradling your cellphone or mobile device and text and yack all day behind the safe confines of technology, or reach out in person to those who are important to you before you lose touch with them?
How many people, friends and family do you email or text or poke on Facebook that you haven’t shook hands with, hugged, or looked eye to eye for a long time?
How many of those people would you find revolting or unacceptable to interact with on such an intimate and personal physical or spiritual level?
Wow, am I on a rant or what. Just thinking out loud as guys can do, and so I do.
For example, there is only one person I want to discuss intimate things with, one person who I want to chat to about love and sex on a very personal level.. that’s my wife, I know, obvious, right?
But I am sure there are a lot of people out there in the world who flirt harmlessly with the same or opposite sex and think nothing of it, even if it is robbing time away from the one that loves them and they are the world to. Just a thought.
I don’t hang out in bars when I could be home staring into my wife’s eyes and appreciate her beauty, because I am in love with her and love her. This idea isn’t “should do” that I am compelled by guilt to do, it just is a natural surrender for me, it’s how I feel.
Does that sort of emotional attachment and desire of her make me clingy or weak? Does it hint of feminine and not masculine traits? No, I think it is because I am indeed a strong man that I feel this way and act upon it.
Sure, couples can argue or not get along or not agree on things, and I know I can do guy things that frustrate her or piss her off just as she can do women things that frustrate me, but when it comes to love, she is right there by my side and I am there by hers as well, that’s pretty basic and understandable. I know men and women are wired differently in their heads, men generally want physical attention, for that means love to them, and women want emotional/mental attention and people to listen to them, talking or what not, that is how women feel loved.
So back to social networking then, I would gather it’s a form of global community that is evolving and growing, it is technology empowering the world to be this way, but also, it is drawing people within themselves and complicating the face-to-face interactions. I often see couples going to dinner together, and the moment they sit down and get their drinks on and orders ready, out come the cell phones and texting and they don’t even acknowledge each other the rest of the night, too busy working or typing away to friends or whomever, it’s just as if the other person wasn’t sitting across from them at the same table — why bother going out to dinner at all if you can’t put the phone down for the 30 minutes to a few hours that a meal would consume, really, is it that hard? Is your partner that insignificant that you can’t make eye contact or carry on a verbal conversation with them for that long? Sheesh if things are that bad, you may as well be single or dead. Perhaps a couple that texts everyone except the person they are with, it is some odd electronic symbiotic relationship that they share a phone bill and not much else, like a weird business deal gone horribly wrong. Who knows, I just don’t get it. Before, when cell phones first came out, many restaurants would just tell people to put them away, because it was just rude to be on the phone while others were trying to enjoy their meal, their movie, their wedding, sporting event, theatre or music venue, whatever.
Can you imagine going to a friends house who has spent half the day preparing and cooking you dinner to share with them, and as you sit at the table you push your plate aside, whip out the laptop and cellphone and start working away? You could as easily just tell the person to go fuck off right there in their own house, ungracious guest that you are, and they would be honored and justified to quickly boot you out upon your ear.
Now I have nothing about celebrities or people who think their life is so interesting to go blog every photo and event in their life to the world, and yes I was one of those people just a few years ago, and indeed there were people with no life of their own that received much vicarious enjoyment watching mine, but really.. when it comes down to it.. what kind of life did that give me? If I was so busy texting and shooting photos and videos and sending emails and blogging and ranting every bowel movement and daily meal schedule, what sort of life was I having? Well, I am sure I was so busy telling everyone else what a excellent life I was having that I missed out on much of the small details I would have otherwise noticed and paid good attention to, if I had only put down the mobile devices and gear long enough to stop and smell the roses I was so busy describing in minute detail to my loyal blog-fans. (I almost wrote blog-farts, funny typo).. yeah that is what I will call people who spend the day scouring the net and blogs and forums and texting and reading news and crap and never moving from their seats, as if they were a smelly gastronomic anomaly from their arses, a “blog fart” — don’t be a blog fart. Go outside and enjoy life, it is there for the taking. Sure you can blog about it later, but tell ya what , for once, or for a day, or whatever you can wean from your gadget addiction, step out there totally disconnected from the digital world, leave it all home or turn it all off and experience the natural environment around you.
Wow, what a revelation that can be. In fact, I have just inspired myself (was going to typo “inspirited” which I say often too).. heck, I am outta here! Cheers! 🙂
Life is out there, and I am going to grab it by the balls, heck I can grab my own balls if I was a rap star, anyway, poof, gone I go for now.. woot!